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One Thousand Gifts

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I recently came across a wonderful page called a holy experience and the lady on there has started what she calls Gratitude Monday and a list of one thousand gifts God has given her that she is thankful for. Lately I have been down in the dumps…and stumbling upon this was nothing short of a God given sign. So here I am participating in Gratitude Monday. I havent decided if I will only post once a week or everday. But lets just start with today…

  1. My Husband
  2. My children
  3. D’s demanding will to take charge
  4. R’s energetic attitude
  5. Both of my son’s curiosity
  6. To have children that give me a reason to get out of bed every morning
  7. Money to purchase food to feed their hungry mouths
  8. all of my husbands wonderful characteristics and flaws
  9. my metabolism
  10. my internet

Would you care to read how it all got started? I encourage you to browse around on her page as well. She is truly blessed and a blessing!

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Internet…Bad or Good?

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Tonight im voting bad! I had planned on going to sleep early. But now its almost 1am and I find myself STILL stuck on my computer. Looking up this and that…Its wednesday and I still didnt do any homework. How is it that I can manage to spend countless hours on a dumb computer?! I do not know! But maybe this should be my new years resolution! To not spend more than an alloted time on the computer! Unless of course Im ACTUALLY completing homework! Im sure my house would be cleaner, I would get more sleep, and maybe just maybe dear D would behave better. Although most of my computer hours are spent while the boys are sleeping. I only do about an hour during the day while they are awake. BUT STILL! HOURS! I have been on this thing since 8pm almost 5 hours! Oh the Bible study and cleaning I could get done in that time! Thats it! Tomorrow Im going to sit down and decide how much time I should get a day for the computer. AND STICK WITH IT! Sure its going to be hard. However, its necessary! Anyone else care to join me? You should…Just like the TV its stealing our lives…Yes its just an object and only we can allow something to steal our time. But we ARE allowing it. Its time its stopped! How can I be a good christian wife/mom if Im not even reading my Bible every night! I need to get back on track with school, cleaning, my challenges on here, D’s homeschooling, and last but definitely not least, my Bible reading!

Tomorrow night I will give myself enough time to write an update. Good night dear readers 🙂

Day 9: UNlearn yourself!

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Step 9: UnLearn yourself!
Often we try to learn NEW habits instead of Unlearning bad ones. Let’s try to walk ourselves out of the old bad habits then replace them with new ones.
Day9: God will set you free
In order to become better women we need to evaluate ourselves. We need to be completely honest with ourselves. What makes you NOT want to clean? How are you tempted to avoid playing with your children? Or reading the bible to your children? How do you spend your days?
These are all questions to help you learn what it is you are doing wrong so that you can Unlearn these habits and LEARN new ones J. Let me first tell you what are my weaknesses.
I do not like cleaning. It takes a TON of energy, or so it seems. I feel so exhausted when I start cleaning. Or I start hurting, or the kids start fighting and so on. I could go on and on for days about why I do not want to clean! I get distracted by busy work, the computer, homework, watching tv, etc. I let them get busy watching tv or playing with each other and then I will sit in front of the tv. The television is starting to become a really big problem for us. LOL but that is a whole different day and conversation! I forget, somehow, to read the Bible to my children. Our days get busy, I wake up late, they wake up late, they wake up in a bad mood, I wake up in a bad mood, again the list goes on and on. If I do not make a conscious effort my days are spent on the computer, fighting with my oldest, and laying on the couch. The less I do the more I feel tired and worn out. So how can we muster up the energy to unlearn these habits? Just don’t do them right? Simple you say? NO WAY! Don’t allow yourself to sit at your computer first thing in the morning. Don’t turn the tv on right away. Instead of sitting down on the couch first, head straight to the kitchen and start making breakfast. This will start you going. IF you need some caffeine make yourself some tea or coffee to get you going J. Then instead of letting the kids stew in front of the tv after breakfast breakout the fun energetic music or start some lessons right away. Get them in the bath or shower right away. If you keep moving from the time you step out of bed you wont have a chance to slow down and get tired ;). Don’t allow yourself to attempt those bad habits. Avoid them at all costs! Doing this will start new habits. Do you see that instead of laying on the couch, we would be cooking breakfast? See how it replaces but also unlearns? If you think of it as avoiding versus replaces and trying to learn something new, think of it as trying to Unlearn something J. Same thing goes with cleaning. Don’t allow yourself to stop after a meal until all the dishes are rinsed. Just get up from the table rinse and place in the dishwasher. Make your children do this as well. DO NOT CLEAN UP AFTER THEM. This will only instill bad habits. Even with young children. About the age of 20 months is when a child should be able to comprehend to bring you their plate and can help scrape their left over food into the trash, then they can even help rinse it off.  Same goes with toys, my son is 14 months and if I take the time, he will help pick up toys at the end of the night. Maintaining your house will be much easier for you if you teach your family members to clean up after themselves, because then you have less work to do! How great is that?
So for today:
Read the corresponding Proverbs
UNLEARN old nasty habits
Keep yourself busy
Include your children and family members for household chores
Pray to God and help for guidance and strength with making your new changes.

Todays corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 23

1 When you sit down to eat with a ruler,
Consider carefully what is before you;
2 And put a knife to your throat
If you are a man given to appetite.
3 Do not desire his delicacies,
For they are deceptive food.
4 Do not overwork to be rich;
Because of your own understanding, cease!
5 Will you set your eyes on that which is not?
For riches certainly make themselves wings;
They fly away like an eagle toward heaven.
6 Do not eat the bread of a miser,[a]
Nor desire his delicacies;
7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

“ Eat and drink!” he says to you,
But his heart is not with you.
8 The morsel you have eaten, you will vomit up,
And waste your pleasant words.
9 Do not speak in the hearing of a fool,
For he will despise the wisdom of your words.
10 Do not remove the ancient landmark,
Nor enter the fields of the fatherless;
11 For their Redeemer is mighty;
He will plead their cause against you.
12 Apply your heart to instruction,
And your ears to words of knowledge.
13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.[b]
15 My son, if your heart is wise,
My heart will rejoice—indeed, I myself;
16 Yes, my inmost being will rejoice
When your lips speak right things.
Do not let your heart envy sinners, But be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day; 18 For surely there is a hereafter,
And your hope will not be cut off.
19 Hear, my son, and be wise;
And guide your heart in the way.
20 Do not mix with winebibbers,
Or with gluttonous eaters of meat;
21 For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty,
And drowsiness will clothe a man with rags.
22 Listen to your father who begot you,
And do not despise your mother when she is old.
23 Buy the truth, and do not sell it,
Also wisdom and instruction and understanding.
24 The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice,
And he who begets a wise child will delight in him.
25 Let your father and your mother be glad,
And let her who bore you rejoice.
26 My son, give me your heart,
And let your eyes observe my ways.
27 For a harlot is a deep pit,
And a seductress is a narrow well.
28 She also lies in wait as for a victim,
And increases the unfaithful among men.
29 Who has woe?
Who has sorrow?
Who has contentions?
Who has complaints?
Who has wounds without cause?
Who has redness of eyes?
30 Those who linger long at the wine,
Those who go in search of mixed wine.
31 Do not look on the wine when it is red,
When it sparkles in the cup,
When it swirls around smoothly;
32 At the last it bites like a serpent,
And stings like a viper.
33 Your eyes will see strange things,
And your heart will utter perverse things.
34 Yes, you will be like one who lies down in the midst of the sea,
Or like one who lies at the top of the mast, saying:
“They have struck me, but I was not hurt; They have beaten me, but I did not feel it. When shall I awake, that I may seek another drink?”

Day 8: Get Back To Basics

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Step 8: Get back to basics
In the last week we have covered a lot of information. Lets get back to studying the scripture and see where that leads us.
Day 8: Re-read Proverbs 31:10-31
The Virtuous Wife
10 Who can find a virtuous wife? Virtuous: conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright: Lead a virtuous life or chaste: a virtuous young person
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; How is hubby reacting to your changes? Is he liking the new change in you?
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil Are you doing good with not speaking bad to or about your husband?
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands. Are you using your resources? Are you re-using things or making things from what you already have?
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar. How is deal shopping going for you? Are you saving money?
15 She also rises while it is yet night, How are you doing with waking up early? Providing breakfast for the household?
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Ok we have made it to verse 15 so lets start with verse 16.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.

So here the proverbs woman is considering a good investment to help her to make some extra money while she remains at home, taking care of her home and family. This is something you can still do today. You can learn to sew, mend, bake, make things, etc. You can also look into direct selling from home, as in having a home business. This is definitely an option for mothers who are looking to return home from the workforce. Even in the bible days there was a work at home mommy!
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.

This verse is hard for me to understand in NKJV let me post it in NIV.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

Ok. “She sets about her work vigorously” lets take a look at the word vigorously.
–adjective
1.     full of or characterized by vigor: a vigorous effort.
2.     strong; active; robust: a vigorous youngster.
3.     energetic; forceful: vigorous steps; a vigorous personality.
4.     powerful in action or effect: vigorous law enforcement.
5.     growing well, as a plant.

This sounds fantastic doesn’t it? She sets about her work energetically, forcefully, powerfully! Do you do that with your housework? I can tell you right now, I am not anywhere near excited about most of my chores. Im excited about the idea of a clean house, but I don’t necessarily want to do it. Here it seems as though she is definitely prepared and ready for her work. “Her arms are strong for her tasks” This is one part that I fail at miserably. I do not work out. I have always been a very tiny person and have always had a hard time gaining weight. I know a lot of woman who tell me I am lucky to be blessed with this metabolism. However, I have to be very careful and eat ALL THE TIME if I exercise. Although, for my health I think I should at least be taking walks or doing some yoga during the week. Maybe if we implement a small exercise during our week we will be more energetic with our housework? I recently told my sister, who is wanting to stay fit during pregnancy, to vacuum her house with high heels on! LOL I told her its an amazing workout. So, as long as you are very careful, emphasis on careful, I highly recommend it. It will help strengthen your legs to do housework in heels. Why do you think women in the 50’s did it? Lol not just for fashion I assure you that!
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.

Her she is noticing that her decision to plant a vineyard from land was indeed a wise decision. Im guessing that she is starting to reap the benefits and perhaps money or trades. Also this verse says that her lamp does not go out by night. This verse always puzzles me. I know that God wants us to get adequate rest. If you think about how many hours of daylight we have during certain times of the year, sometimes its dark out at 5pm in some places. Therefore, she is still working her projects and taking care of the family. Or you can look at it, like when we made our schedules yesterday, we gave ourselves sometime after the kids go to bed to finish up things around the house and spend time with our husbands. Always make sure you allow yourself this time.
Today take the time to reflect on the changes you have made in yourself and for your family. Sit your family down and ask them what they think of your changes? Include them in future changes. If your husband is unsure have him read the studies for himself. He will see exactly why you are doing this for your family. Not to take control away from him but to become the Godly wife that he needs you to be. Let him know that his approval is needed. Tell him that changes will be made as long as he is comfortable and approves of them. I have not met a man yet who doesn’t enjoy a tidy home and a hot meal ready for him when he wakes and gets home from work. Look over the questions I posted next to the verses. Answer these in your notebook. Be completely honest with yourself.
To Do’s For today:
Read Corresponding Proverbs
Study Tasks
Read over Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 again
Write down any ideas you have or changes you want to make
Have your prayer time with God, Ask him if you are receiving everything he wants you to receive.
Have a blessed day!

Todays Corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 19

1 Better is the poor who walks in his integrity
Than one who is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.
2 Also it is not good for a soul to be without knowledge,
And he sins who hastens with his feet.
3 The foolishness of a man twists his way,
And his heart frets against the LORD.
4 Wealth makes many friends,
But the poor is separated from his friend.
5 A false witness will not go unpunished,
And he who speaks lies will not escape.
6 Many entreat the favor of the nobility,
And every man is a friend to one who gives gifts.
7 All the brothers of the poor hate him;
How much more do his friends go far from him!
He may pursue them with words, yet they abandon him.
8 He who gets wisdom loves his own soul;
He who keeps understanding will find good.
9 A false witness will not go unpunished,
And he who speaks lies shall perish.
10 Luxury is not fitting for a fool,
Much less for a servant to rule over princes.
11 The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger,
And his glory is to overlook a transgression.
12 The king’s wrath is like the roaring of a lion,
But his favor is like dew on the grass.
13 A foolish son is the ruin of his father,
And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.
14 Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the LORD.
15 Laziness casts one into a deep sleep,
And an idle person will suffer hunger.
16 He who keeps the commandment keeps his soul,
But he who is careless[a] of his ways will die.
17 He who has pity on the poor lends to the LORD,
And He will pay back what he has given.
18 Chasten your son while there is hope,
And do not set your heart on his destruction.[b]
19 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment;
For if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
20 Listen to counsel and receive instruction,
That you may be wise in your latter days.
21 There are many plans in a man’s heart,
Nevertheless the LORD’s counsel—that will stand.
22 What is desired in a man is kindness,
And a poor man is better than a liar.
23 The fear of the LORD leads to life,
And he who has it will abide in satisfaction;
He will not be visited with evil.
24 A lazy man buries his hand in the bowl,[c]
And will not so much as bring it to his mouth again.
25 Strike a scoffer, and the simple will become wary;
Rebuke one who has understanding, and he will discern knowledge.
26 He who mistreats his father and chases away his mother
Is a son who causes shame and brings reproach.
27 Cease listening to instruction, my son,
And you will stray from the words of knowledge.
28 A disreputable witness scorns justice,
And the mouth of the wicked devours iniquity.
29 Judgments are prepared for scoffers,
And beatings for the backs of fools.

Day 7 Seize the Day

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Step 7: Seize the Day
Lately, my house has been all crazy and out of whack. I am having health issues and have had for 14 months now. Then my dad has been having back problems. My mother is weak from previously having cancer. Then my husband is gone due to training for the Army. Whew! So the kids are having a hard time adjusting. My 4 year old especially, he has been having a lot and I mean A LOT of behavior problems. So today is learning how to seize the good days. Also how to get your family into a schedule to make more good days than bad.

Day 7: Making a Schedule
When we read about the Proverbs woman she rises early and takes care of her family. She also utilizes what she has and so on. Today lets look at how to make a schedule that works for you. First I want you to think at how your days usually run now. Write it down. Look at when you wake up, when you eat breakfast, lunch, dinner. Look at when children nap. When you prepare dinner, etc. Let me show you how my day USED to look before we implemented our first schedule.
10am-Me and my oldest woke up(while pregnant with #2)
12ish-130ish We ate lunch
130-230 He went down for his nap and woke up about two hours later
4-530 I would start getting dinner ready

We would eat whenever daddy got home. Then we would sit and watch tv and then my son went down for bedtime about 9pm. Yes, my son would sleep in late with me. Most of you would say I was lucky. If you notice I did not mention any cleaning time, activity time, or learning time. That’s because I didn’t have any. We watched tv while I was on the computer or sleeping some more. I think I was depressed as well as lazy. I had no idea how to be a decent mother and wife let alone a Godly Wife such as the proverbs 31 woman. I am still not close at all. However, do not speak negative words to yourself. Be honest. Not critical! Do NOT criticize yourself. God is changing you so do not worry. Now I want you to realistically make yourself a new schedule. If you have young children who do NOT attend school 7am-8am is a good waking time. If you prefer earlier then go for it. Otherwise this is a good time to get them going and you so you can accomplish everything. If your children are in school already then get up about 45 minutes before they need to be out the door. Later we will work on being up BEFORE the kiddos to get in alone time with God. This 45 minutes will give you ample time to get up and dressed, get breakfast, and get them off to school. If your family needs more time then try getting up 15 minutes before your children need to be up so you can get dressed and start breakfast, even through in some time with you and God, talk to him while you are getting ready. He will set the mood for the day if you let him. Then after breakfast, send the kids off to school OR if your kids are at home with you then start your day. Give them something to do, watch educational tv or do some activities or playtime. During this time you can join them or get some chores done. Remember, being a housewife is not all about the HOUSE. Its about your home. Your children are part of that, you are a mother. Set aside time to play with your children and enjoy them. Enjoy being a mother, this will help your days move smoother as your children will get the attention they need first thing in the morning and will be less likely to bother you while you are trying to do the dishes lol. Then after that, take time to complete some of your to do list. Never take chunks of time. Give yourself 15 minutes then play for 10 or something to that extent. ENJOY! OH! I forgot to add something. At breakfast read a short childrens bible story and pray with your children. Have them ask God to bless their day and to be kind and have them pray for their family. Teaching your children to put God at the beginning of the day will save them from having to change habits later. Moving along J. Try to do lunch between 11 and 12noon. This means sitting down to eat. This is a great time for children. I have tried different times but this block of time seems to work for them. Then give your child 30 minutes after meal time to play and run off all that healthy food. Next is naptime. If you don’t fill your day with too much stuff then mommy can take a nap as well. However, you can make this time for God dates or Bible study time. Whatever works best. But try to refrain from an exhausting tasks. This is a time for rest. Just like Sundays. Let your body wind down. Mommy’s need rest too! Then when they wake its snack time! Everyone should revamp with juice and a healthy snack. Then there is more playing, or cleaning if you need it after snack time. Then around 4 is a good time to start dinner. Usually any meal you make, you will need about an hour to get it ready, this includes prep time and cook time. If you need more time make sure you know about how much time it takes to get ready so you can have it ready when hubby gets home. Now, if your husband works weird hours or is away for work then try to eat around 5. This gives your body and babies bodies ample time to digest before having to go to sleep. Then the rest of the night should be for play J. Then bedtime should be 11-12 hours from the time kids woke up if they are young. If your children are older but attend school I recommend getting them to bed by 9pm at the latest. This gives your child around 8-9 hours of sleep which is the least they should get to function for school. See! That wasn’t so hard. Now there are going to be different things that work for you. You need to do what works for you. This is similar to what we do and after a lot of trial and error this is what seems to work for me and my friends who have tried it too. Although, most of my friends get up earlier than I do as their children do not sleep long like mine do. Let me show you the routine Im hoping to start tomorrow.
7am Wake and get dressed, brush teeth, start breakfast.
730-8 eat breakfast, read the bible, clean up from breakfast (include your
Children in clean up time)
8-830 Play with kiddos!
830-930 Mommy time to get school work done
930-10 Daily To Do List
10am Snack Time

1030am Park Time (If its cold out, bundle up, kiddos need to get out no matter the temperature, however if there is health risks involved make a fun     activity for inside so they can run off energy)
11am-1130am Mommy Time for Mommy to work on School Work
12pm Start lunch/Eat Lunch
1230 Play time and clean up time(Children bring me dishes and I clean up     while they play and run off their food)

1pm-230pm Nap Time
230-3pm Snack Time
3pm-330pm To Do List/Homework-If nothing is left to work on, do kids activity/learning time.
330-4pm Start getting things ready for dinner
4pm-5pm Cooking dinner/Playing with kids
5pm Dinner Time

530pm Dinner Clean Up (Older children help with clean up)
The rest of the time is used for play, family time, or homework. Not used for cleaning!
7pm Snack time/Bedtime Bible Time
730 Bath Time
8pm Bedtime

Now after you put the kiddos to bed you can finish up anything that you didn’t get accomplished throughout your day. However, if you plan your days well you will be able to keep your home tidy and functional without spending all day on cleaning. Also make sure to utilize this time to spend with hubby and/or God. Do NOT spend hours cleaning after your children are in bed. Remember their resting time is YOUR resting time. How can you take care of energetic children if you do not get ample sleep. You must rest when they do so you can be as energized as they are. I know we did not focus on scripture today but this is what God inspired me to write when I prayed to him. If you make a schedule you will be able to give Him a good amount of attention as well. Make sure you set aside time to spend with him. One thing I like to do is say a little prayer and let God know Im thinking about him when I go into the restroom. Im all alone and Im able to just say a quick hello and then get back to the bustle of my day. Also, if you are having behavior problems with your children as well, a good solid schedule will help! I have proved this theory true a few times with my son. He has been violent and hateful and I have been able to dull this down quite a bit by given him a set schedule. He always knows what to expect which makes his flare ups less and less, because he is not being aggravated or rushed! Remember to always ask God for guidance when you are dealing with rough times. Also while making changes. Ask God to help you know how to set up your schedule so that it works for YOUR family.
‘Call to Me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things, which you do not know.’ ~Jer. 33:3~
To Do for Today:
Read Daily Proverbs
Make Daily Schedule (Rough Draft)
Pray about making a new schedule and the things you’ve learned.
Write down anything you have learned or feel needs changing or any ideas you have related to the study or you becoming a new woman.
One more thing, also consult your husband and family about making changes. Ask them what they think would help or be beneficial to you all. God Bless.

Todays Corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 18

1 A man who isolates himself seeks his own desire;
He rages against all wise judgment.
2 A fool has no delight in understanding,
But in expressing his own heart.
3 When the wicked comes, contempt comes also;
And with dishonor comes reproach.
4 The words of a man’s mouth are deep waters;
The wellspring of wisdom is a flowing brook.
5 It is not good to show partiality to the wicked,
Or to overthrow the righteous in judgment.
6 A fool’s lips enter into contention,
And his mouth calls for blows.
7 A fool’s mouth is his destruction,
And his lips are the snare of his soul.
8 The words of a talebearer are like tasty trifles,
And they go down into the inmost body.
9 He who is slothful in his work
Is a brother to him who is a great destroyer.
10 The name of the LORD is a strong tower;
The righteous run to it and are safe.
11 The rich man’s wealth is his strong city,
And like a high wall in his own esteem.
12 Before destruction the heart of a man is haughty,
And before honor is humility.
13 He who answers a matter before he hears it,
It is folly and shame to him.
14 The spirit of a man will sustain him in sickness,
But who can bear a broken spirit?
15 The heart of the prudent acquires knowledge,
And the ear of the wise seeks knowledge.
16 A man’s gift makes room for him,
And brings him before great men.
17 The first one to plead his cause seems right,
Until his neighbor comes and examines him.
18 Casting lots causes contentions to cease,
And keeps the mighty apart.
19 A brother offended is harder to win than a strong city,
And contentions are like the bars of a castle.
20 A man’s stomach shall be satisfied from the fruit of his mouth;
From the produce of his lips he shall be filled.
21 Death and life are in the power of the tongue,
And those who love it will eat its fruit.
22 He who finds a wife finds a good thing,
And obtains favor from the LORD.
23 The poor man uses entreaties,
But the rich answers roughly.
24 A man who has friends must himself be friendly,
But there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

Day 6 Put yourself into Motion

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Step 6: Taking baby steps
So far we have been doing a lot of pondering, study, and prayer. Today we are going to start walking. First we will learn how to get on our feet.
Day 6: Put yourself into motion
Lets take a look at ourselves. How are you feeling? Are you feeling cleaner? Are you feeling confident that you can become the woman you’ve always wanted to become. Today lets start to take small actions to becoming that woman and making it a habit. For the last few days we have been trying to not speak harmful words to or about our husbands. How are you doing with that? I’m doing better I think. I definitely am thinking before I speak more. Trying to make myself free from obscenity. Now lets talk about simplicity, trying to make ourselves simple and not adorned with accessories. Dress yourself simple. I think tomorrow I will start with a dress challenge. It is a little chilly out so I will probably invest in some leggings or tights. If you do not agree with wearing dresses all the time then try dressing modest. Clean pants, not too tight or flashy. Shirts that are not too tight or revealing. I’m learning to try to keep my shoulders covered. If I do not my shirt always is wide enough to cover my bra. I know for some of you this might be a hard change but after time it will become easier. Making changes to your outward appearance will help with your inner changes and vice versa.
Now lets take a look at some scripture. Today Im going to dip into Titus 2:3-5.
3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
As you notice, these verses are similar to the verses in Proverbs 31. Let me show you the verses in another translation to see if that makes it more simple. The first set is from new king james and the second is new living translation.
3 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[b] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
Titus 2 mentions how to teach our daughters how to become good women. Which we do not want to focus on too much yet because you are just learning how to do this yourself. However, your daughters will learn by example. Just as teachers have to study the material need to be taught we need to as well. Ok verse 3 “Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good.” So here God is also telling us to be free from obscenity. I like here that it also mentions to not be a heavy drinker. In the NKJV, it says “not given to much wine.” When someone is intoxicated on any substance it leaves your mind open to evil. Well I feel this way and I know there is scripture to back that up but I will have to find that for you all. Its like the saying “idle hands are the devils playground”. If you leave your mind idle and not focused on God it can leave you open for temptation. That’s why you should never drink a lot of alcohol or consume drugs. Moving on to the rest of the verse. Not only do you need to be responsible for yourselves but also keep your children in mind for your motivation to reach your goal of becoming a Godly woman. Your daughters need a woman to learn from so that they can learn healthy habits to begin with and your sons will need to learn these things as well so we will choose a Godly woman for a wife. This is elaborated on in verse 4, “These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children.” Then in verse 5, “to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” So now God says we need to live wisely and be pure. Does this remind you of the first few verses in Proverbs 31 readings? I love how the Bible confirms itself! In the NKJV, it says to be homemakers, but here in the NLT, it says to work in their homes. I like this because me and my husband have felt convicted for me to always stay at home if we’re able to afford to. Now, if your finances do not allow you to remain at home do not feel like you can not still be a Godly woman. God understands your family’s needs. However, if you would like to return to being a stay at home mother pray for God’s assistance. Try to live simpler or even try to work from home. There are plenty of work from home options out there. “To do good” this can mean a lot! In the NKJV, it uses the word good. Here I think it refers back to having morals and being virtuous. Then to be submissive to your husband. Now this can be a sensitive subject for some women. Before you start to think of the women you have heard of that have mean husbands that take advantage of them. Pray and ask God to reveal to you what it means to be a submissive wife. I will include some scriptures for that tomorrow. Being a submissive wife, for me, means to be considerate of my husband. To always consult him before making big decisions. In a good steady godly relationship your husband will be submissive to you as well. You will become balanced. He will help you and you will help him in return. The toughest part for me, is allowing my husband to discipline our children. In the last few months we have done some reading on parenting though and God has really touched our hearts and now we agree more than ever. Being submissive also means learning when to back off in a fight. If you and your husband manage to get in an argument, try to remind yourself not to worry about who says sorry first. Just make sure it gets said, and NEVER go to bed angry with one another. Ok moving on. Then if you do these things it states that you shall not bring shame onto the Word of God. If the wife starts to become a godly wife, her children and husband will follow. However, this does not mean it will happen over night. It could take weeks, months, or even years of praying and leading by example. Just stick with it and God will bless your family.
For today:
Start dressing modestly.
Read your daily proverbs
Pray about what you have read and how God wants you to make new changes to your family.
Write about what you have learned and your goals for yourself and your family.

Here is todays corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 17

1 Better a dry crust eaten in peace
than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.

2 A wise servant will rule over the master’s disgraceful son
and will share the inheritance of the master’s children.

3 Fire tests the purity of silver and gold,
but the Lord tests the heart.

4 Wrongdoers eagerly listen to gossip;
liars pay close attention to slander.

5 Those who mock the poor insult their Maker;
those who rejoice at the misfortune of others will be punished.

6 Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged;
parents[a] are the pride of their children.

7 Eloquent words are not fitting for a fool;
even less are lies fitting for a ruler.

8 A bribe is like a lucky charm;
whoever gives one will prosper!

9 Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,
but dwelling on it separates close friends.

10 A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding
than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.

11 Evil people are eager for rebellion,
but they will be severely punished.

12 It is safer to meet a bear robbed of her cubs
than to confront a fool caught in foolishness.

13 If you repay good with evil,
evil will never leave your house.

14 Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate,
so stop before a dispute breaks out.

15 Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent—
both are detestable to the Lord.

16 It is senseless to pay tuition to educate a fool,
since he has no heart for learning.

17 A friend is always loyal,
and a brother is born to help in time of need.

18 It’s poor judgment to guarantee another person’s debt
or put up security for a friend.

19 Anyone who loves to quarrel loves sin;
anyone who trusts in high walls invites disaster.

20 The crooked heart will not prosper;
the lying tongue tumbles into trouble.

21 It is painful to be the parent of a fool;
there is no joy for the father of a rebel.

22 A cheerful heart is good medicine,
but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.

23 The wicked take secret bribes
to pervert the course of justice.

24 Sensible people keep their eyes glued on wisdom,
but a fool’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth.

25 Foolish children[b] bring grief to their father
and bitterness to the one who gave them birth.

26 It is wrong to punish the godly for being good
or to flog leaders for being honest.

27 A truly wise person uses few words;
a person with understanding is even-tempered.

28 Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent;
with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.

Day 5 Date with your First Love

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Step 5: Become Prayerful
When we ended step 4/day 4  with a prayer. Today lets start with a prayer.
Heavenly father, Please help to direct my day in the way that you want it accomplished. May I learn from your word and this study. Help me to put what I have learned into action. May I keep on my heart that ONLY through YOU can I accomplish what my heart desires. To be one with you, and a Proverbs 31 woman is my true hearts longing. Please bless my family and this day Lord. ~Amen.~

If you have other things to add to the days prayer please feel free. When learning to become a new women and a God focused woman at that we need to not only remember to arm ourselves with scripture but also with prayer. Without communication there is no relationship. Without your relationship with God, there will be no long lasting changes.
Day 5: Say a Prayer, Walk with God
Today take the time to “walk with God.” Have a date with him tell him how you feel about him and how you would like your relationship to change. Tell him anything and everything that comes to your mind. Remember do not become to needy. God is not our magic geenie in a magic bottle to fulfill our wishes whenever we decide to speak to him. He is our God. Our beloved. Without him we have nothing. So talk to him. Talk to him as you would talk to your husband while out on a date. Now if you cannot literally get out of your house for walk then take some time during the day, even if it’s the end of the day, and have special time together. Read a special passage out of song of Solomon if that helps to make it more romantic. Also, get yourself all dressed up and throw on some make up and perfume! This might help to set the mood as well. When you go out for your walk, or sit down in a separate room for your date, make sure you tell your husband/kids that you are having alone time with God and you should not be disturbed. This will allow for some much needed intimacy. You know that word, probably not used to using it in reference to God but you should. He is very intimate! He created intimacy didn’t he?
Lets also revisit Proverbs 31.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar.
15 She also rises while it is yet night,
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
When Im looking at these particular versus from this passage I like to use a modern day translation to help me better understand it. “13 She finds wool and flax,  and busily spins it.” This is from the New Living Translation. Of course basically saying the same thing, she gathers materials and makes things that are needed. Verse 14 “She is like a merchant’s ship, bringing her food from afar.” For me this verse reminds me of a mother going grocery shopping, checking all the sales papers and finding the best deals for her family. Traveling to each and every store to get the best price and the healthiest goods. Do you do this when grocery shopping? Even if you have been blessed with wealth, if you remember to take this step you will be saving money that could be used for other family activities or donated to charity. Verse 15, “15 She gets up before dawn to prepare breakfast for her household and plan the day’s work for her servant girls.” This is where it starts to get challenging for women of today, I think. At least I know this is where I start to get weak. Wake up BEFORE dawn? AND prepare breakfast? AND plan my days work?! Are you serious? Well, yes, of course. A lot of women, even myself, will think, “well gee whiz, I’ll never be able to get up that early, I’ll be SO tired!” If you get yourself to bed early, you will be able to get up early. I know many husbands work early hours. At least mine does when he is in the military. My new goal will be to wake 30 minutes before my husband needs to be awake to get his breakfast and lunch packed up. Then wake him and enjoy our time together and then wake the children. If you have young children who do not need to be awake for school you can always leave them asleep and get some chores done before they awake, then this saves you from doing it at nap time. So from these versus we have learned that she is resourceful and we are starting to see that she is utilizing her time well. Do you think this runs hand in hand with the first few versus? Being virtuous and a woman your husband can trust? It most definitely does! The versus from Proverbs 31 will all work together and start to make a lot of sense to you. How amazing is it that God placed instructions on how to be a successful homemaker right there in the Bible?! I think its fantastic.
So to do list for today is as follows:
Read corresponding proverbs chapter
Have a date with the Lord
Pray about what you have learned
Write down what you have learned and any ideas on how you can later learn to follow these verses as well.

Proverbs 16

1 The preparations of the heart belong to man,
But the answer of the tongue is from the LORD.
2 All the ways of a man are pure in his own eyes,
But the LORD weighs the spirits.
3 Commit your works to the LORD,
And your thoughts will be established.
4 The LORD has made all for Himself,
Yes, even the wicked for the day of doom.
5 Everyone proud in heart is an abomination to the LORD;
Though they join forces,[a] none will go unpunished.
6 In mercy and truth
Atonement is provided for iniquity;
And by the fear of the LORD one departs from evil.
7 When a man’s ways please the LORD,
He makes even his enemies to be at peace with him.
8 Better is a little with righteousness,
Than vast revenues without justice.
9 A man’s heart plans his way,
But the LORD directs his steps.
10 Divination is on the lips of the king;
His mouth must not transgress in judgment.
11 Honest weights and scales are the LORD’s;
All the weights in the bag are His work.
12 It is an abomination for kings to commit wickedness,
For a throne is established by righteousness.
13 Righteous lips are the delight of kings,
And they love him who speaks what is right.
14 As messengers of death is the king’s wrath,
But a wise man will appease it.
15 In the light of the king’s face is life,
And his favor is like a cloud of the latter rain.
16 How much better to get wisdom than gold!
And to get understanding is to be chosen rather than silver.
17 The highway of the upright is to depart from evil;
He who keeps his way preserves his soul.
18 Pride goes before destruction,
And a haughty spirit before a fall.
19 Better to be of a humble spirit with the lowly,
Than to divide the spoil with the proud.
20 He who heeds the word wisely will find good,
And whoever trusts in the LORD, happy is he.
21 The wise in heart will be called prudent,
And sweetness of the lips increases learning.
22 Understanding is a wellspring of life to him who has it.
But the correction of fools is folly.
23 The heart of the wise teaches his mouth,
And adds learning to his lips.
24 Pleasant words are like a honeycomb,
Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.
25 There is a way that seems right to a man,
But its end is the way of death.
26 The person who labors, labors for himself,
For his hungry mouth drives him on.
27 An ungodly man digs up evil,
And it is on his lips like a burning fire.
28 A perverse man sows strife,
And a whisperer separates the best of friends.
29 A violent man entices his neighbor,
And leads him in a way that is not good.
30 He winks his eye to devise perverse things;
He purses his lips and brings about evil.
31 The silver-haired head is a crown of glory,
If it is found in the way of righteousness.
32 He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty,
And he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city.
33 The lot is cast into the lap,
But its every decision is from the LORD.