Step 6: Taking baby steps
So far we have been doing a lot of pondering, study, and prayer. Today we are going to start walking. First we will learn how to get on our feet.
Day 6: Put yourself into motion
Lets take a look at ourselves. How are you feeling? Are you feeling cleaner? Are you feeling confident that you can become the woman you’ve always wanted to become. Today lets start to take small actions to becoming that woman and making it a habit. For the last few days we have been trying to not speak harmful words to or about our husbands. How are you doing with that? I’m doing better I think. I definitely am thinking before I speak more. Trying to make myself free from obscenity. Now lets talk about simplicity, trying to make ourselves simple and not adorned with accessories. Dress yourself simple. I think tomorrow I will start with a dress challenge. It is a little chilly out so I will probably invest in some leggings or tights. If you do not agree with wearing dresses all the time then try dressing modest. Clean pants, not too tight or flashy. Shirts that are not too tight or revealing. I’m learning to try to keep my shoulders covered. If I do not my shirt always is wide enough to cover my bra. I know for some of you this might be a hard change but after time it will become easier. Making changes to your outward appearance will help with your inner changes and vice versa.
Now lets take a look at some scripture. Today Im going to dip into Titus 2:3-5.
3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
As you notice, these verses are similar to the verses in Proverbs 31. Let me show you the verses in another translation to see if that makes it more simple. The first set is from new king james and the second is new living translation.
3 Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers.[a] Instead, they should teach others what is good. 4 These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children, 5 to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes,[b] to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.
Titus 2 mentions how to teach our daughters how to become good women. Which we do not want to focus on too much yet because you are just learning how to do this yourself. However, your daughters will learn by example. Just as teachers have to study the material need to be taught we need to as well. Ok verse 3 “Similarly, teach the older women to live in a way that honors God. They must not slander others or be heavy drinkers. Instead, they should teach others what is good.” So here God is also telling us to be free from obscenity. I like here that it also mentions to not be a heavy drinker. In the NKJV, it says “not given to much wine.” When someone is intoxicated on any substance it leaves your mind open to evil. Well I feel this way and I know there is scripture to back that up but I will have to find that for you all. Its like the saying “idle hands are the devils playground”. If you leave your mind idle and not focused on God it can leave you open for temptation. That’s why you should never drink a lot of alcohol or consume drugs. Moving on to the rest of the verse. Not only do you need to be responsible for yourselves but also keep your children in mind for your motivation to reach your goal of becoming a Godly woman. Your daughters need a woman to learn from so that they can learn healthy habits to begin with and your sons will need to learn these things as well so we will choose a Godly woman for a wife. This is elaborated on in verse 4, “These older women must train the younger women to love their husbands and their children.” Then in verse 5, “to live wisely and be pure, to work in their homes, to do good, and to be submissive to their husbands. Then they will not bring shame on the word of God.” So now God says we need to live wisely and be pure. Does this remind you of the first few verses in Proverbs 31 readings? I love how the Bible confirms itself! In the NKJV, it says to be homemakers, but here in the NLT, it says to work in their homes. I like this because me and my husband have felt convicted for me to always stay at home if we’re able to afford to. Now, if your finances do not allow you to remain at home do not feel like you can not still be a Godly woman. God understands your family’s needs. However, if you would like to return to being a stay at home mother pray for God’s assistance. Try to live simpler or even try to work from home. There are plenty of work from home options out there. “To do good” this can mean a lot! In the NKJV, it uses the word good. Here I think it refers back to having morals and being virtuous. Then to be submissive to your husband. Now this can be a sensitive subject for some women. Before you start to think of the women you have heard of that have mean husbands that take advantage of them. Pray and ask God to reveal to you what it means to be a submissive wife. I will include some scriptures for that tomorrow. Being a submissive wife, for me, means to be considerate of my husband. To always consult him before making big decisions. In a good steady godly relationship your husband will be submissive to you as well. You will become balanced. He will help you and you will help him in return. The toughest part for me, is allowing my husband to discipline our children. In the last few months we have done some reading on parenting though and God has really touched our hearts and now we agree more than ever. Being submissive also means learning when to back off in a fight. If you and your husband manage to get in an argument, try to remind yourself not to worry about who says sorry first. Just make sure it gets said, and NEVER go to bed angry with one another. Ok moving on. Then if you do these things it states that you shall not bring shame onto the Word of God. If the wife starts to become a godly wife, her children and husband will follow. However, this does not mean it will happen over night. It could take weeks, months, or even years of praying and leading by example. Just stick with it and God will bless your family.
Start dressing modestly.
Read your daily proverbs
Pray about what you have read and how God wants you to make new changes to your family.
Write about what you have learned and your goals for yourself and your family.
Here is todays corresponding Proverbs
1 Better a dry crust eaten in peace
than a house filled with feasting—and conflict.
2 A wise servant will rule over the master’s disgraceful son
and will share the inheritance of the master’s children.
3 Fire tests the purity of silver and gold,
but the Lord tests the heart.
4 Wrongdoers eagerly listen to gossip;
liars pay close attention to slander.
5 Those who mock the poor insult their Maker;
those who rejoice at the misfortune of others will be punished.
6 Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged;
parents[a] are the pride of their children.
7 Eloquent words are not fitting for a fool;
even less are lies fitting for a ruler.
8 A bribe is like a lucky charm;
whoever gives one will prosper!
9 Love prospers when a fault is forgiven,
but dwelling on it separates close friends.
10 A single rebuke does more for a person of understanding
than a hundred lashes on the back of a fool.
11 Evil people are eager for rebellion,
but they will be severely punished.
12 It is safer to meet a bear robbed of her cubs
than to confront a fool caught in foolishness.
13 If you repay good with evil,
evil will never leave your house.
14 Starting a quarrel is like opening a floodgate,
so stop before a dispute breaks out.
15 Acquitting the guilty and condemning the innocent—
both are detestable to the Lord.
16 It is senseless to pay tuition to educate a fool,
since he has no heart for learning.
17 A friend is always loyal,
and a brother is born to help in time of need.
18 It’s poor judgment to guarantee another person’s debt
or put up security for a friend.
19 Anyone who loves to quarrel loves sin;
anyone who trusts in high walls invites disaster.
20 The crooked heart will not prosper;
the lying tongue tumbles into trouble.
21 It is painful to be the parent of a fool;
there is no joy for the father of a rebel.
22 A cheerful heart is good medicine,
but a broken spirit saps a person’s strength.
23 The wicked take secret bribes
to pervert the course of justice.
24 Sensible people keep their eyes glued on wisdom,
but a fool’s eyes wander to the ends of the earth.
25 Foolish children[b] bring grief to their father
and bitterness to the one who gave them birth.
26 It is wrong to punish the godly for being good
or to flog leaders for being honest.
27 A truly wise person uses few words;
a person with understanding is even-tempered.
28 Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent;
with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent.