Monthly Archives: November 2009

Back to Normal, Hopefully!


Lately things have been up down and all around here. D has had behavior problems like normal. Then we had to prepare for thanksgiving. So on and so forth. However, tomorrow I am going to get us back on track, hopefully :).

ToDo List:

Get D’s lessons ready for the week.

Go to the bank.

Help D do his chores.

Make sure to do music time and story time with both boys and if its nice outside we might go to the park 🙂

I also hope to be continuing the homemaking bible study soon as well. For those of you who were keeping up with it please forgive me. Also, FlyLady challenge will resume on Tuesday.

God Bless!


Wonderful comes in a blue!


I am so ecstatic for tomorrow! Tonight I went out and bought the boys’ school stuff so we can do more lessons and fun activities! Paints, baby crayons, giant paper tablets, letter stamps, etc.

Lesson Plan for Tuesday

Compare Leaves of two plants

Have D write in his journal about the plants, their similarities and differences. Then draw a picture of the plants.

If we have time, have him start on leaf poster project.

Have music/dance time with the boys.

Story time and work on sign language.

R is learning fish this week 🙂 Need to figure out some new signs for D too

Mommas School To-Do List

Read Chapter 6 in Criminal Justice

Do research for CRMJ Paper.

Read Chapter 7 in Foundations

For the FlyLady challenge we are starting back on Day 10 since I got sick and was not able to complete this day. Hopefully I will be able to complete all this stuff! I think if I stick with it I should be able to. My schoolwork really should only take about 2 hours so if I do an hour in the morning and an hour in the evening, maybe when I put the boys down, then I will be good. Well I better get to sleep so I have plenty of energy to do all this in the morning 🙂

Day 9: UNlearn yourself!


Step 9: UnLearn yourself!
Often we try to learn NEW habits instead of Unlearning bad ones. Let’s try to walk ourselves out of the old bad habits then replace them with new ones.
Day9: God will set you free
In order to become better women we need to evaluate ourselves. We need to be completely honest with ourselves. What makes you NOT want to clean? How are you tempted to avoid playing with your children? Or reading the bible to your children? How do you spend your days?
These are all questions to help you learn what it is you are doing wrong so that you can Unlearn these habits and LEARN new ones J. Let me first tell you what are my weaknesses.
I do not like cleaning. It takes a TON of energy, or so it seems. I feel so exhausted when I start cleaning. Or I start hurting, or the kids start fighting and so on. I could go on and on for days about why I do not want to clean! I get distracted by busy work, the computer, homework, watching tv, etc. I let them get busy watching tv or playing with each other and then I will sit in front of the tv. The television is starting to become a really big problem for us. LOL but that is a whole different day and conversation! I forget, somehow, to read the Bible to my children. Our days get busy, I wake up late, they wake up late, they wake up in a bad mood, I wake up in a bad mood, again the list goes on and on. If I do not make a conscious effort my days are spent on the computer, fighting with my oldest, and laying on the couch. The less I do the more I feel tired and worn out. So how can we muster up the energy to unlearn these habits? Just don’t do them right? Simple you say? NO WAY! Don’t allow yourself to sit at your computer first thing in the morning. Don’t turn the tv on right away. Instead of sitting down on the couch first, head straight to the kitchen and start making breakfast. This will start you going. IF you need some caffeine make yourself some tea or coffee to get you going J. Then instead of letting the kids stew in front of the tv after breakfast breakout the fun energetic music or start some lessons right away. Get them in the bath or shower right away. If you keep moving from the time you step out of bed you wont have a chance to slow down and get tired ;). Don’t allow yourself to attempt those bad habits. Avoid them at all costs! Doing this will start new habits. Do you see that instead of laying on the couch, we would be cooking breakfast? See how it replaces but also unlearns? If you think of it as avoiding versus replaces and trying to learn something new, think of it as trying to Unlearn something J. Same thing goes with cleaning. Don’t allow yourself to stop after a meal until all the dishes are rinsed. Just get up from the table rinse and place in the dishwasher. Make your children do this as well. DO NOT CLEAN UP AFTER THEM. This will only instill bad habits. Even with young children. About the age of 20 months is when a child should be able to comprehend to bring you their plate and can help scrape their left over food into the trash, then they can even help rinse it off.  Same goes with toys, my son is 14 months and if I take the time, he will help pick up toys at the end of the night. Maintaining your house will be much easier for you if you teach your family members to clean up after themselves, because then you have less work to do! How great is that?
So for today:
Read the corresponding Proverbs
UNLEARN old nasty habits
Keep yourself busy
Include your children and family members for household chores
Pray to God and help for guidance and strength with making your new changes.

Todays corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 23

1 When you sit down to eat with a ruler,
Consider carefully what is before you;
2 And put a knife to your throat
If you are a man given to appetite.
3 Do not desire his delicacies,
For they are deceptive food.
4 Do not overwork to be rich;
Because of your own understanding, cease!
5 Will you set your eyes on that which is not?
For riches certainly make themselves wings;
They fly away like an eagle toward heaven.
6 Do not eat the bread of a miser,[a]
Nor desire his delicacies;
7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.

“ Eat and drink!” he says to you,
But his heart is not with you.
8 The morsel you have eaten, you will vomit up,
And waste your pleasant words.
9 Do not speak in the hearing of a fool,
For he will despise the wisdom of your words.
10 Do not remove the ancient landmark,
Nor enter the fields of the fatherless;
11 For their Redeemer is mighty;
He will plead their cause against you.
12 Apply your heart to instruction,
And your ears to words of knowledge.
13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.[b]
15 My son, if your heart is wise,
My heart will rejoice—indeed, I myself;
16 Yes, my inmost being will rejoice
When your lips speak right things.
Do not let your heart envy sinners, But be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day; 18 For surely there is a hereafter,
And your hope will not be cut off.
19 Hear, my son, and be wise;
And guide your heart in the way.
20 Do not mix with winebibbers,
Or with gluttonous eaters of meat;
21 For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty,
And drowsiness will clothe a man with rags.
22 Listen to your father who begot you,
And do not despise your mother when she is old.
23 Buy the truth, and do not sell it,
Also wisdom and instruction and understanding.
24 The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice,
And he who begets a wise child will delight in him.
25 Let your father and your mother be glad,
And let her who bore you rejoice.
26 My son, give me your heart,
And let your eyes observe my ways.
27 For a harlot is a deep pit,
And a seductress is a narrow well.
28 She also lies in wait as for a victim,
And increases the unfaithful among men.
29 Who has woe?
Who has sorrow?
Who has contentions?
Who has complaints?
Who has wounds without cause?
Who has redness of eyes?
30 Those who linger long at the wine,
Those who go in search of mixed wine.
31 Do not look on the wine when it is red,
When it sparkles in the cup,
When it swirls around smoothly;
32 At the last it bites like a serpent,
And stings like a viper.
33 Your eyes will see strange things,
And your heart will utter perverse things.
34 Yes, you will be like one who lies down in the midst of the sea,
Or like one who lies at the top of the mast, saying:
“They have struck me, but I was not hurt; They have beaten me, but I did not feel it. When shall I awake, that I may seek another drink?”

A Brand New Day


Today was a great Monday! I am starting to like Mondays, they are a brand new start, fresh and clean week. Great time to start new changes. This week we are all feeling better, so time to get back to my routines! I received my books in the mail that I will be reviewing! SOO excited!

I also started back up with homeschooling D! This is what I am really ecstatic about 🙂 I have been doing a lot of thinking and research and I really feel that he is supposed to be in the home. Public school just isnt going to work for our family I dont think. So, today we started with a science lesson. Comparing plants. He looked and described the plants leaves, then counted them. We wrote it all down and then added up the leaves 🙂 I was so proud of him! We also had a discussion about how plants need water and sunlight. We then did music and dance time! This was a lot of fun! Tomorrow we are going to look at another plant and then compare the two as well as do some math and writing. Then on wednesday I am going to have him paint a picture of the leaves to put into his learning binder! I am so glad Im getting back into this. I am doing storytime with R after nap so that he can start learning as well, and then we will play with blocks and work on sign language 🙂 This week we are learning the sign for fish!

Tonight I will write the bible study and put up my goal for FlyLady challenge for tomorrow 🙂 Hope you all have a blessed day!


So Sorry I have been away


For those of you that are daily readers and depend on the Bible Study Im really sorry we have been sick with this cold and I have been exhausted. I hope to get rested this weekend and get the boys better then be back at it on Monday.

R is still sick and so far D hasnt gotten it. Hoping he doesnt cause he usually gets really bad. Im wearing down, since I havent heard from hubby in a whole week! Its really hard dealing with that right now. However, my favorite holiday is coming up! I hope to be able to get D in the kitchen with me to teach him how to make some stuff 🙂

I did get my student loan check so now Im deciding if its still a good idea to enroll in the Midwive’s Assistant Program. I really want to but Im afraid I will need the money for something else. Going to pray about it.

Also, the past few days I have been thinking really hard about homeschooling the kids again. D is supposed to start kindergarten next year and Im just not sure if I can bring myself to do it. I just do not feel safe sending my children off with someone I dont know. Going to pray about that as well and pray hubby comes to feel the same way I do. But I know before he will allow me to do that, I need to get into a routine and stay on top of teaching him now, and stay on top of my own studies. Will be a challenge Im sure however, all things are possible through christ right? 🙂

Have a blessed day 🙂

Sick yet amazing


So today was an interesting day. I woke up sicker than a dog. Poor ray was cranky and not feeling well either. He wouldnt eat or drink anything. Daven was being an angel finally! My dad was home sore from his back again. My mom still recovering from her cold. However, Ray and I cuddled a lot and we all hung out. I managed to go ALL DAY with not abdominal pain or pain over my ovaries, therefor, I went a WHOLE DAY without needing pain medications!!! Its been 2 months since I could do that!! Im so thankful! Im hopeful that my body might do better, but im still being causious. I was also able to complete quite a bit of homework today yay! So even though I was all snotty and yucky and feverish it was overall a great day. OH! And I made ground chicken burgers with cheese and ranch. They would have been chicken bacon ranch but no bacon lol. Ray finally ate and drank a bunch of juice and formula 🙂 We took a break from pottying as we were both feeling so yucky. Hopefully we feel better tomorrow. If so I will resume FlyLady Challenge. It will be Day 9. Whew She is starting to load on the work huh? 😉

“We have already been using our timers for 2 minutes and now 5 minutes. Today we are going to learn the power of just 15 minutes. You can do anything for 15 minutes. This is all about getting started and giving ourselves permission to stop when the timer goes off. You cannot restart the timer either. This is not a race to finish in 15 minutes either! The timer helps to keep us focused on what we are doing.

Now set your timer for 15 minutes and go gather up all the trash you can find to throw away and put it in the garbage can outside. Then set your timer for another 15 minutes and sit down and put your feet up and read a favorite magazine till the timer goes off.”

So add the 15 minutes to the 2 minute hot spot and the 5 minute declutter and we only clean for 22 minutes! You will be amazed what you can get done in such little time 🙂 Well ladies hope you all have a great day! Oh as soon as I can get the camera to work I will be posting pics for the Dress Challenge and writing a blog on it 🙂

God Bless!

Day 8: Get Back To Basics


Step 8: Get back to basics
In the last week we have covered a lot of information. Lets get back to studying the scripture and see where that leads us.
Day 8: Re-read Proverbs 31:10-31
The Virtuous Wife
10 Who can find a virtuous wife? Virtuous: conforming to moral and ethical principles; morally excellent; upright: Lead a virtuous life or chaste: a virtuous young person
For her worth is far above rubies.
11 The heart of her husband safely trusts her; How is hubby reacting to your changes? Is he liking the new change in you?
So he will have no lack of gain.
12 She does him good and not evil Are you doing good with not speaking bad to or about your husband?
All the days of her life.
13 She seeks wool and flax,
And willingly works with her hands. Are you using your resources? Are you re-using things or making things from what you already have?
14 She is like the merchant ships,
She brings her food from afar. How is deal shopping going for you? Are you saving money?
15 She also rises while it is yet night, How are you doing with waking up early? Providing breakfast for the household?
And provides food for her household,
And a portion for her maidservants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.
19 She stretches out her hands to the distaff,
And her hand holds the spindle.
20 She extends her hand to the poor,
Yes, she reaches out her hands to the needy.
21 She is not afraid of snow for her household,
For all her household is clothed with scarlet.
22 She makes tapestry for herself;
Her clothing is fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is known in the gates,
When he sits among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
And supplies sashes for the merchants.
25 Strength and honor are her clothing;
She shall rejoice in time to come.
26 She opens her mouth with wisdom,
And on her tongue is the law of kindness.
27 She watches over the ways of her household,
And does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children rise up and call her blessed;
Her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “ Many daughters have done well,
But you excel them all.”
30 Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing,
But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.
31 Give her of the fruit of her hands,
And let her own works praise her in the gates.
Ok we have made it to verse 15 so lets start with verse 16.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
From her profits she plants a vineyard.

So here the proverbs woman is considering a good investment to help her to make some extra money while she remains at home, taking care of her home and family. This is something you can still do today. You can learn to sew, mend, bake, make things, etc. You can also look into direct selling from home, as in having a home business. This is definitely an option for mothers who are looking to return home from the workforce. Even in the bible days there was a work at home mommy!
17 She girds herself with strength,
And strengthens her arms.

This verse is hard for me to understand in NKJV let me post it in NIV.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.

Ok. “She sets about her work vigorously” lets take a look at the word vigorously.
1.     full of or characterized by vigor: a vigorous effort.
2.     strong; active; robust: a vigorous youngster.
3.     energetic; forceful: vigorous steps; a vigorous personality.
4.     powerful in action or effect: vigorous law enforcement.
5.     growing well, as a plant.

This sounds fantastic doesn’t it? She sets about her work energetically, forcefully, powerfully! Do you do that with your housework? I can tell you right now, I am not anywhere near excited about most of my chores. Im excited about the idea of a clean house, but I don’t necessarily want to do it. Here it seems as though she is definitely prepared and ready for her work. “Her arms are strong for her tasks” This is one part that I fail at miserably. I do not work out. I have always been a very tiny person and have always had a hard time gaining weight. I know a lot of woman who tell me I am lucky to be blessed with this metabolism. However, I have to be very careful and eat ALL THE TIME if I exercise. Although, for my health I think I should at least be taking walks or doing some yoga during the week. Maybe if we implement a small exercise during our week we will be more energetic with our housework? I recently told my sister, who is wanting to stay fit during pregnancy, to vacuum her house with high heels on! LOL I told her its an amazing workout. So, as long as you are very careful, emphasis on careful, I highly recommend it. It will help strengthen your legs to do housework in heels. Why do you think women in the 50’s did it? Lol not just for fashion I assure you that!
18 She perceives that her merchandise is good,
And her lamp does not go out by night.

Her she is noticing that her decision to plant a vineyard from land was indeed a wise decision. Im guessing that she is starting to reap the benefits and perhaps money or trades. Also this verse says that her lamp does not go out by night. This verse always puzzles me. I know that God wants us to get adequate rest. If you think about how many hours of daylight we have during certain times of the year, sometimes its dark out at 5pm in some places. Therefore, she is still working her projects and taking care of the family. Or you can look at it, like when we made our schedules yesterday, we gave ourselves sometime after the kids go to bed to finish up things around the house and spend time with our husbands. Always make sure you allow yourself this time.
Today take the time to reflect on the changes you have made in yourself and for your family. Sit your family down and ask them what they think of your changes? Include them in future changes. If your husband is unsure have him read the studies for himself. He will see exactly why you are doing this for your family. Not to take control away from him but to become the Godly wife that he needs you to be. Let him know that his approval is needed. Tell him that changes will be made as long as he is comfortable and approves of them. I have not met a man yet who doesn’t enjoy a tidy home and a hot meal ready for him when he wakes and gets home from work. Look over the questions I posted next to the verses. Answer these in your notebook. Be completely honest with yourself.
To Do’s For today:
Read Corresponding Proverbs
Study Tasks
Read over Proverbs 31 and Titus 2 again
Write down any ideas you have or changes you want to make
Have your prayer time with God, Ask him if you are receiving everything he wants you to receive.
Have a blessed day!

Todays Corresponding Proverbs

Proverbs 19

1 Better is the poor who walks in his integrity
Than one who is perverse in his lips, and is a fool.
2 Also it is not good for a soul to be without knowledge,
And he sins who hastens with his feet.
3 The foolishness of a man twists his way,
And his heart frets against the LORD.
4 Wealth makes many friends,
But the poor is separated from his friend.
5 A false witness will not go unpunished,
And he who speaks lies will not escape.
6 Many entreat the favor of the nobility,
And every man is a friend to one who gives gifts.
7 All the brothers of the poor hate him;
How much more do his friends go far from him!
He may pursue them with words, yet they abandon him.
8 He who gets wisdom loves his own soul;
He who keeps understanding will find good.
9 A false witness will not go unpunished,
And he who speaks lies shall perish.
10 Luxury is not fitting for a fool,
Much less for a servant to rule over princes.
11 The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger,
And his glory is to overlook a transgression.
12 The king’s wrath is like the roaring of a lion,
But his favor is like dew on the grass.
13 A foolish son is the ruin of his father,
And the contentions of a wife are a continual dripping.
14 Houses and riches are an inheritance from fathers,
But a prudent wife is from the LORD.
15 Laziness casts one into a deep sleep,
And an idle person will suffer hunger.
16 He who keeps the commandment keeps his soul,
But he who is careless[a] of his ways will die.
17 He who has pity on the poor lends to the LORD,
And He will pay back what he has given.
18 Chasten your son while there is hope,
And do not set your heart on his destruction.[b]
19 A man of great wrath will suffer punishment;
For if you rescue him, you will have to do it again.
20 Listen to counsel and receive instruction,
That you may be wise in your latter days.
21 There are many plans in a man’s heart,
Nevertheless the LORD’s counsel—that will stand.
22 What is desired in a man is kindness,
And a poor man is better than a liar.
23 The fear of the LORD leads to life,
And he who has it will abide in satisfaction;
He will not be visited with evil.
24 A lazy man buries his hand in the bowl,[c]
And will not so much as bring it to his mouth again.
25 Strike a scoffer, and the simple will become wary;
Rebuke one who has understanding, and he will discern knowledge.
26 He who mistreats his father and chases away his mother
Is a son who causes shame and brings reproach.
27 Cease listening to instruction, my son,
And you will stray from the words of knowledge.
28 A disreputable witness scorns justice,
And the mouth of the wicked devours iniquity.
29 Judgments are prepared for scoffers,
And beatings for the backs of fools.