Step 9: UnLearn yourself!
Often we try to learn NEW habits instead of Unlearning bad ones. Let’s try to walk ourselves out of the old bad habits then replace them with new ones.
Day9: God will set you free
In order to become better women we need to evaluate ourselves. We need to be completely honest with ourselves. What makes you NOT want to clean? How are you tempted to avoid playing with your children? Or reading the bible to your children? How do you spend your days?
These are all questions to help you learn what it is you are doing wrong so that you can Unlearn these habits and LEARN new ones J. Let me first tell you what are my weaknesses.
I do not like cleaning. It takes a TON of energy, or so it seems. I feel so exhausted when I start cleaning. Or I start hurting, or the kids start fighting and so on. I could go on and on for days about why I do not want to clean! I get distracted by busy work, the computer, homework, watching tv, etc. I let them get busy watching tv or playing with each other and then I will sit in front of the tv. The television is starting to become a really big problem for us. LOL but that is a whole different day and conversation! I forget, somehow, to read the Bible to my children. Our days get busy, I wake up late, they wake up late, they wake up in a bad mood, I wake up in a bad mood, again the list goes on and on. If I do not make a conscious effort my days are spent on the computer, fighting with my oldest, and laying on the couch. The less I do the more I feel tired and worn out. So how can we muster up the energy to unlearn these habits? Just don’t do them right? Simple you say? NO WAY! Don’t allow yourself to sit at your computer first thing in the morning. Don’t turn the tv on right away. Instead of sitting down on the couch first, head straight to the kitchen and start making breakfast. This will start you going. IF you need some caffeine make yourself some tea or coffee to get you going J. Then instead of letting the kids stew in front of the tv after breakfast breakout the fun energetic music or start some lessons right away. Get them in the bath or shower right away. If you keep moving from the time you step out of bed you wont have a chance to slow down and get tired . Don’t allow yourself to attempt those bad habits. Avoid them at all costs! Doing this will start new habits. Do you see that instead of laying on the couch, we would be cooking breakfast? See how it replaces but also unlearns? If you think of it as avoiding versus replaces and trying to learn something new, think of it as trying to Unlearn something J. Same thing goes with cleaning. Don’t allow yourself to stop after a meal until all the dishes are rinsed. Just get up from the table rinse and place in the dishwasher. Make your children do this as well. DO NOT CLEAN UP AFTER THEM. This will only instill bad habits. Even with young children. About the age of 20 months is when a child should be able to comprehend to bring you their plate and can help scrape their left over food into the trash, then they can even help rinse it off. Same goes with toys, my son is 14 months and if I take the time, he will help pick up toys at the end of the night. Maintaining your house will be much easier for you if you teach your family members to clean up after themselves, because then you have less work to do! How great is that?
So for today:
Read the corresponding Proverbs
UNLEARN old nasty habits
Keep yourself busy
Include your children and family members for household chores
Pray to God and help for guidance and strength with making your new changes.
Todays corresponding Proverbs
1 When you sit down to eat with a ruler,
Consider carefully what is before you;
2 And put a knife to your throat
If you are a man given to appetite.
3 Do not desire his delicacies,
For they are deceptive food.
4 Do not overwork to be rich;
Because of your own understanding, cease!
5 Will you set your eyes on that which is not?
For riches certainly make themselves wings;
They fly away like an eagle toward heaven.
6 Do not eat the bread of a miser,[a]
Nor desire his delicacies;
7 For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.
“ Eat and drink!” he says to you,
But his heart is not with you.
8 The morsel you have eaten, you will vomit up,
And waste your pleasant words.
9 Do not speak in the hearing of a fool,
For he will despise the wisdom of your words.
10 Do not remove the ancient landmark,
Nor enter the fields of the fatherless;
11 For their Redeemer is mighty;
He will plead their cause against you.
12 Apply your heart to instruction,
And your ears to words of knowledge.
13 Do not withhold correction from a child,
For if you beat him with a rod, he will not die.
14 You shall beat him with a rod,
And deliver his soul from hell.[b]
15 My son, if your heart is wise,
My heart will rejoice—indeed, I myself;
16 Yes, my inmost being will rejoice
When your lips speak right things.
Do not let your heart envy sinners, But be zealous for the fear of the LORD all the day; 18 For surely there is a hereafter,
And your hope will not be cut off.
19 Hear, my son, and be wise;
And guide your heart in the way.
20 Do not mix with winebibbers,
Or with gluttonous eaters of meat;
21 For the drunkard and the glutton will come to poverty,
And drowsiness will clothe a man with rags.
22 Listen to your father who begot you,
And do not despise your mother when she is old.
23 Buy the truth, and do not sell it,
Also wisdom and instruction and understanding.
24 The father of the righteous will greatly rejoice,
And he who begets a wise child will delight in him.
25 Let your father and your mother be glad,
And let her who bore you rejoice.
26 My son, give me your heart,
And let your eyes observe my ways.
27 For a harlot is a deep pit,
And a seductress is a narrow well.
28 She also lies in wait as for a victim,
And increases the unfaithful among men.
29 Who has woe?
Who has sorrow?
Who has contentions?
Who has complaints?
Who has wounds without cause?
Who has redness of eyes?
30 Those who linger long at the wine,
Those who go in search of mixed wine.
31 Do not look on the wine when it is red,
When it sparkles in the cup,
When it swirls around smoothly;
32 At the last it bites like a serpent,
And stings like a viper.
33 Your eyes will see strange things,
And your heart will utter perverse things.
34 Yes, you will be like one who lies down in the midst of the sea,
Or like one who lies at the top of the mast, saying:
“They have struck me, but I was not hurt; They have beaten me, but I did not feel it. When shall I awake, that I may seek another drink?”